We as humans try and keep our lives very private (and I am aware this is a far generalization) yet even those that lay it all out on the table for everyone to see make others feel very uncomfortable. It is this silence that tears us apart as a civilization. Without open and honest communication we all can project our feelings, prejudices, and vulnerabilities onto each other and assume things that really we don't know. I feel as though if we were all more open about how we function that we could begin to understand that we truly cannot compare human beings to one another.
What works for me, will not work for you. And I mean this in every aspect of life. My ability to be a space cadet and still be aware of what is happening around me helps me to function in this crazy world, yet I know many people who would go off into la la land and never come back. There are so many things on this earth that we do not understand on the mental plane. And as people we want comprehension so bad that when we need an explanation our minds will make something up just to find relief in an answer. How often have you gotten emotional over a current circumstance only to realize later that the situation sparked an old wound within yourself that had nothing to do with the present moment? Or have you ever sat around a group of people and started to think they were better than you and your mind began spinning off all these things that were "wrong" with you?
We are all gifts just the way we are. An astrologer friend of mine is helping me begin to see that our souls chose our bodies for a reason, chose our families for a reason, that everything going on in our life is there to teach us something. We constantly ask in our heads what we are doing wrong instead of searching and tapping into our felt sensation in our bodies for what we are doing right! The way you function is individual to you and it is just a matter of getting out of judgment and into cultivating appreciation and self acceptance and humor for all your beautiful uniqueness. No one can eat like you do. Even if you binge on food every single night the next morning you can wake up and laugh at yourself. Instead of beating yourself up, which only causes more stress within the body which no one needs in this society today, you can look at yourself in the mirror and laugh.
Your relationship with food is a wonderful teacher. This relationship can be viewed like a peal in your hand. Hold it too loose and it falls out of your hand, hold it too tight and you may crush it, but hold the pearl in your hand just right and you can begin to see its beauty. When we look at our relationship with food we can see how it correlates with how we do everything else in life; how we approach our career, our intimate relationships, our family, our friends....and if you feel as though your relationship is not serving your highest self expression the first step is still coming into awareness of what you and you and your food have together.
Coming to terms that I am an individual has helped me to count on myself more. I cannot ask anyone else what to do or eat anymore because it is really, truly only me and my body that knows the answers to any questions. When we stop comparing ourselves to our external environment we begin to listen to ourselves internally; and then we can receive some pretty profound answers. These answers can be an aid pointing you in the direction of where your soul's true intentions lie and can help you begin to love you and all your quirks.