When I met my now husband almost 7 years ago, I gained a significant amount of weight. There were wounded parts of me that could not understand why this amazing individual liked me. Food can often be connected to love as it is the first form of love we received as a baby from a parent or care taker. For the rest of life, if we are not feeling seen, heard, held, acknowledged, supported, food naturally comes in to provide us with the emotions and sensations we are looking for. In having someone in my life for the first time who truly saw me was so triggering to my body and felt misaligned with how I was normally seeing myself that food and weight came in to provide protection and a sense of safety during a time that felt confusing in my being.
As the years went by and old beliefs that were no longer serving me to hold on to around my ability to be loved were released so did the weight naturally find homeostasis once again. In our culture, whenever weight starts to come on we are told we need to get rid of it right away and are given a million different strategies in how to do that. What if instead our weight and symptoms are there teaching us something? To quote Tony Robbins, "What if every problem and pain you had was life happening for you – not to you?" Our weight, symptoms, pains, and wounds are meant to be slowed down with, embraced, and explored what wisdom they have to provide us in what is no longer serving us to hold on to any longer.
When we welcome in and accept whatever is present for us that is when emotions and sensations can decrease in their intensity as we release any internal battle of fighting what is. So to be able to release whatever is present for us in our life, we first must step into awareness of how our symptoms, habits, patterns and emotions are serving and protecting us in some way, and in that new space of awareness, foster compassionate understanding that whatever pattern we have adopted was created at a time in our life when we needed it and we simply no longer need that habit or belief to feel safe in the world today.
I would love to know, what will you embrace today and what are you working on releasing from your body at this time of your life?