I recently had someone say to me that they wanted me to become unimportant. What they meant by that was that they desired for me that I put so many potent systems in place in my life and delegate responsibilities that I become unimportant in areas I was holding a lot of space for that all my energy can then be focused else where, to a new place that might need my attention and wisdom. This offering of guidance has blown my mind for a few weeks now.
I have always had a desire to want to feel important and that more stemmed from that if I felt important then that perhaps meant that I was liked or appreciated or accepted. Such a powerful thing we all want from such a young age is to know we belong somewhere. This is often why we adopt habits and patterns as children and teenagers that no longer serve us in adulthood as we take on the patterns of our parents and our siblings and our friends, often regardless of what our own values might be, so that we can have a deep sense of knowing we "fit in" and we belong.
I have sensed lately in beginning to think about becoming unimportant that there is actually a lot of power in releasing the need to over-extend ourselves, letting go of the desire to be something for someone except for our authentic selves, and that our time is truly precious. And in reflecting on our time, how are we then offering our time in ways that perhaps do not align with our greater goals in life simply because we want to feel important and know we belong. In taking on the thought process lately that I am not important, I have actually felt more connected to my environment and my surroundings as then everyone and everything becomes important all on the same level.
There can be a difference between confidence and putting ourselves up on a pedestal. Confidence can be knowing that there is a place for you in this world no matter what and that means that sometimes someone will do a job better than you, that means allowing and supporting others to shine and perhaps even surpassing you in career or wisdom or personal self growth, and still knowing you have value. When we put ourselves up on a pedestal, it can effect the ways we interact with others where we it can actually disconnect us from others as when we are on a pedestal there is not much space up there to show up as our true selves and allow ourselves to be seen and heard and held in whatever is present and whoever we need to be in any moment.
Stepping down from that pedestal can feel incredibly scary as then we have the opportunity to show up vulnerable in our life, which can then connect us more to others, which can re-surface those original fears of acceptance and belonging. I want you to know today, that you belong, just as you are, no matter how you show up, no matter what you say, no matter how messy an interaction feels, you are valuable just like everyone else. The power in feeling less important means that we have space to make mistakes, there is space to try out different ways of being in the world, and if we are worrying less around how we can be important, there is more time to reflect on how do you want to spend your sacred time in this world in a way that feels truly meaningful to your unique self.
I have always had a desire to want to feel important and that more stemmed from that if I felt important then that perhaps meant that I was liked or appreciated or accepted. Such a powerful thing we all want from such a young age is to know we belong somewhere. This is often why we adopt habits and patterns as children and teenagers that no longer serve us in adulthood as we take on the patterns of our parents and our siblings and our friends, often regardless of what our own values might be, so that we can have a deep sense of knowing we "fit in" and we belong.
I have sensed lately in beginning to think about becoming unimportant that there is actually a lot of power in releasing the need to over-extend ourselves, letting go of the desire to be something for someone except for our authentic selves, and that our time is truly precious. And in reflecting on our time, how are we then offering our time in ways that perhaps do not align with our greater goals in life simply because we want to feel important and know we belong. In taking on the thought process lately that I am not important, I have actually felt more connected to my environment and my surroundings as then everyone and everything becomes important all on the same level.
There can be a difference between confidence and putting ourselves up on a pedestal. Confidence can be knowing that there is a place for you in this world no matter what and that means that sometimes someone will do a job better than you, that means allowing and supporting others to shine and perhaps even surpassing you in career or wisdom or personal self growth, and still knowing you have value. When we put ourselves up on a pedestal, it can effect the ways we interact with others where we it can actually disconnect us from others as when we are on a pedestal there is not much space up there to show up as our true selves and allow ourselves to be seen and heard and held in whatever is present and whoever we need to be in any moment.
Stepping down from that pedestal can feel incredibly scary as then we have the opportunity to show up vulnerable in our life, which can then connect us more to others, which can re-surface those original fears of acceptance and belonging. I want you to know today, that you belong, just as you are, no matter how you show up, no matter what you say, no matter how messy an interaction feels, you are valuable just like everyone else. The power in feeling less important means that we have space to make mistakes, there is space to try out different ways of being in the world, and if we are worrying less around how we can be important, there is more time to reflect on how do you want to spend your sacred time in this world in a way that feels truly meaningful to your unique self.
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